Why Is She Asking My Birth Time?
Here’s the reason your date wants your birth time, what they’re doing with it, and some info to help you decide if you should give it up.
Astrology is omnipresent these days and if you don’t see the value in it, that probably annoys you. You’re not wrong in feeling this way as there is a ton of well-intentioned yet still harmful stereotyping that goes on — especially when someone is initially learning. As a baby astrologer, we’re all shamefully guilty at some point. It usually comes from a place of excitement and not malice.
But before you text your mom from a barstool for this, become slightly more informed.
What They’re Going To Do With This Information
It’s safe to assume you’re not here for an in-depth, google-able explanation of how astrology works so the simple answer to this is that they’re going to plug your information into a website and it’s going to give them a map, or “chart”, of where the planets were at the exact time and location of your birth. The website also includes fragmented, computer generated personality descriptions about you based on this map. (If you want to see this for yourself google “birth chart”.)
If they’re REALLY curious about you, they might get someone who knows what they’re looking at to give them more insight, like a professional astrologer, or their more astrologically advanced friend. They might even layer their chart with yours to make assumptions about how the two of you will get along.
It’s important to note that they can still get about half of the information they’re looking for by only knowing the date, year, and general time zone of your birth. So do with this hot tip what you will.
What Are The Consequences Of Giving It Up?
This seems weird, right? And slight unfair to be immediately stereotyped? Or maybe silly and harmless? More or less it’s probably all in good fun. Regardless how you feel, luckily to my knowledge, birth times are in no way public info and you can keep it to yourself if you so choose.
Astrology done right (in my opinion) is a tool for reflection, not a fortuneteller’s trick or a fate-sealer. Let’s say you did like where things were going with this person. A healthy way to use astrology with them could be to talk about these descriptions/stereotypes together and decide if any of them are strengths or weaknesses for one or both of you. Discuss how these differences or similarities have played out in your individual lives. At the end of the conversation, you’ve still had a conversation. It doesn’t particularly matter what prompted it, right?
Of course there are folks who will make blanket statements like “I’d never date a [insert sign here] because they are [insert stereotype here].” Hey, no shame, we’ve all done it. I’ve done it — sometimes satirically, sometimes not.
If you’re the one that normally does the asking and you’re seeing red at me now because I’m telling our secrets, then stand down for a sec and hear me out. I’ve scoured birth charts for evidence of whether or not I (or a friend) was wasting effort on someone. It’s a rabbit hole. If you dig someone, challenge yourself to wait to look at their chart and get to know them the old school way. Patience is hard but it’s a decent trait to work on.
